Hi, my name's Ken Rumsey, and thank you for choosing to join us on what?
I know you're going to find to be a thought provoking, an eye opening and also an interesting journey
of self discovery and growth as I share with you everything that you need to know to become a life coach.
I know this course is certified by ecology, which is the Academy of More than Applied Psychology.
And just to give you a little bit of background on me so you know who's gonna be guiding you on this
journey?
I've been practicing coaching and counseling for around about a decade now.
I've worked with probably close to a thousand clients over the years.
And one I've also founded are social enterprise, Solid Growns, which is a coaching stroke mentoring
initiative that works with X forces, personnel, the guides and through the transition from military
to civilian life.
So what I'm seeing here is I've got a little bit of experience under my belt, and it's this experience
that I really want to share with you throughout this course.
So what I figured we would do in this video is just take a look at how I've structured the course so
this can really help you to manage your expectations well.
Now, I don't know if you've ever heard the saying that in life, and it's not what we find that disappoints
us the most is just when our expectations aren't met.
So what I'm going to urge you to do right now, just in case you have any expectations of what this
course is or isn't going to be, will you please kindly put them down?
All right.
So that you're not disappointed.
And so that you can actually enjoy the journey.
What I'm going to do, first and foremost, is just apologize for my imperfect communication style.
Yes, I am Scottish.
Scottish accent And I'm going to do my best to slow down as much as possible.
But just so you're aware, my natural default mode, when teaching and speaking, is a million miles
an hour.
That's right.
Very, very fast.
So I'm going to do my best to communicate as clearly and as accurately with you so that you can gain
all of the insights that are really wanted to gain.
By the time you complete this training sword, this is how we've structured the course.
This is how I've laid it out.
This section of the course is just going to be introductions, a little bit navigation.
I'm going to show you the process for, you know, asking questions.
We've set up a fantastic support group called Practice Makes Perriman.
This is a Facebook group that currently has around about 25000 members of people who are in the same
position as you currently learning and studying.
What a study in the coaching and helping modalities.
So if you do have any questions through this course, I'm going to encourage you to go across the Facebook
group and ask them.
And because we've got around about 75000 people taking this course, which, as you can possibly imagine,
makes it a little bit difficult to keep up with all the questions that come my way.
In fact, it makes it completely impossible.
But inside the community, what we have is we've got tens of thousands of people who've already been
through the process, many of whom have been life coaching for longer than what I have been.
So what I'm seeing, there's a massive wealth of experience and they're going to strongly encourage
you to plug in and get involved so that you can benefit also.
Or it might be the fact that you are already a member of ecology, which is the Academy of Modern Applied
Psychology.
In which case you're going to have a full support community.
You're very fingertips.
So, I mean, four section of the course is going to be self-awareness, unawareness of others.
Now, there's a couple of ideas that I want to share with you.
One of them being that US life coaches, our first priority must be to grow an awareness of ourselves
if we are not fully aware of ourselves and what we believe, what our values and what our priorities
are.
We're never going to fully understand why we say and do the things that we say and do sometimes, or
why our life's HA have a tendency of unfolding the way that they do.
So what I'm going to suggest is our number one priority as life coaches is to get our house in order.
All right.
So the first couple of sections are very much going to be tailored towards you, your own personal growth
experience, because guess what?
As you grow, you're then going to become qualified and competent in your ability to guide other people
through the same personal growth process as life coaches.
It's imperative that week where their first because we can authentically guide or coach other people
in life through stages of life that we ourselves have not already moved beyond.
That makes sense.
So self-awareness.
What I'm going to suggest is the more that we are aware, more aware we become of ourselves, the more
aware we naturally become of other people in terms of what their values and priorities are.
It helps us to gain much deeper insights into other people's actions and behaviours, which is something
that we need as as life coaches.
So Section three is all about.
Core beliefs and world views.
No, I appreciate the many coaching programs out there will focus very much on goal setting, action
setting, making progress, accomplishment, achievement and all these things that are absolutely fantastic.
But what I'm going to say, especially the stage of the course, is that we could work with clients
or other people to put in place the most grandiose set of goals and visions and dreams and aspirations.
But if a person has a set of core limiting beliefs about themselves, about their ability to perform
and get things done, or about their ability to learn and solve problems or even who they are as a person,
then regardless of how many goals they have in place, some people might find it difficult even just
to take that four step.
So I'd like to propose that before we even come onto goal setting, we'll look at core beliefs and world
views and how they can sometimes contradict and really disempower people in terms of pursuing the goals
and ambitions and dreams that they have they want to achieve and ascertain and this deadly disorder
to core values and priorities.
I like to suggest that every single decision we make in life is a values based decision.
And as human beings, we're actually all operating out of exactly the same set of core values all of
the time.
The only thing that differentiates me from you and you from me is the way in which we prioritize these
values.
So guess what?
If we understand the values that are driving us in life, then we understand what underpins and drives
our decision making process.
And if we understand that we're selfs.
That's right.
If we are more aware of ourselves, we become more aware and we get more insights into why other people
are making the decisions that we that they are making.
So this then comes on to communication skills and principles sometimes is not what we say that can make
the greatest impact in life, but it is actually how we say what we say and how we say what we say.
Nine times out of ten determines how we are received socially in the context of our relationships with
other people.
So I wanted, therefore, these two sections to relationship building skills and communication skills.
Now, obviously, as you are growing and insight, understanding and an awareness of yourself, that's
fantastic within itself.
But it is crucial that we also develop our ability to communicate clearly and articulately so that moving
forward we say what we mean when we mean what we say, so that our message, our lessons, our ideas
are clearly understood and therefore then easier received by by other people.
And what we're gonna be both into the course pretty much through all the sections are a series of workbooks
and processes that you can download and work through yourself first and foremost.
But we're also going to encourage you to save them and build them into a repertoire of life coaching
resources so that as soon as you've finished the course, you've pretty much got everything that you
need to start working with clients right away.
Be this in a professional context or maybe just help in context.
If you're helping friends, family members, you might be a manager or a leader who you just want to
better serve your employees or your team.
All right.
We've all got to start somewhere.
And what I am going to be encouraging, yes, seriously, is to start right away because we don't develop
skills just through watching videos or reading books.
We develop skills and we become competent in life when we put that which we're learning into practice
and practice or practice in the world doesn't make us perfect to anything.
It just simply makes us permanently better than what we've ever been before.
So as I'm sharing ideas and models and principles and techniques with you, I'm gonna be seriously urging
you to put them into practice right away, because this is how you grow in competence.
Competence, in my eyes is far more important than what certification has ever been.
So then we come on to Section seven of the course is all about goal setting.
And ironically, this is pretty much way into the second half of the course goal setting.
From experience I found must always come last.
Once we've dealt with a person's limiting self beliefs, their fears, their their insecurities, their
anxieties.
Then and only then they're going to be in a place of readiness to start not just defining their goals,
but actually taking the act and steps that are required to start fulfilling and accomplishing and achieving
the goals that we said.
We want to make sure that the goals our clients are actually in alignment with their core values.
Because if they're not, our clients are going to find it very, very difficult to remain motivated
and driven through the process.
All right.
So all of this will become very, very apparent as we.
Progress and journey through the course Section eight.
I want to introduce you to set off.
What are you going to find to be quite interesting?
Ideas are going to be more and basic business coaching tools.
Why?
Because it might be the case.
You want to go on to set up your own coach and practice.
Or you might want to set up your own business in some way.
Perhaps you might want to set up a social enterprise or you may already be operating in a business and
might be the case that you want to work with executives or business owners or entrepreneurs or something.
So I want to share with you a few tools that you can practice on yourself, first and foremost.
If you are interested in building a business, but if not, that's OK.
Just again, more tools to build into your repertoire of life coaching resources that you can draw upon
and pull out in the future.
If the need so arises, then we're going to look the ecology coaching framework.
And this is a framework that I personally developed around about eight or nine years ago.
And this was pretty much when I was just working from a place of having a food diary client.
If the client of the client would become able to identify trends, we can identify trends in terms of
people's actions and behaviors, especially the reasons why they don't do the things they say they're
going to do.
They don't take the action steps that they know they need to take to get from where they're right to
where they want to be.
So this psychology coaching framework isn't necessarily so much for our clients, isn't actually more
for us as life coaches and as helpers to gauge where our clients are actually at and their process of
personal growth and advancement.
All right.
So helps us to identify where our clients are.
Right, and where they may begin stuck when we are.
Pwint, we understand this allows us to be more far more effective in our in our coaching endeavors.
So I'm also going to be sharing a very, very simple framework in this section of the course from one
of my own personal heroes, Mr. Gerada Egan.
Now he's the author of The Skilled Help her book.
I think that scene around about eleven different additions.
Jerry's around about 88 years old.
I've had the great privilege of meeting and working with him a couple of times.
I am going to be referencing his works on numerous occasions throughout the course because all of the
ideas that I'm presenting from the start, right through to completion of his training, they're not
all mine.
It's not like I've just invented them all.
I'm not just the smart guy who's come up with all the stuff and ideas, build upon ideas and knowledge,
builds upon knowledge and what I must give reference to and who I must honor right now, or all of the
men and women that I've studied all of the years that have helped me to grow and the insights from the
standing that I've that I've arrived, which I'm no obviously going to be sharing and passing over to
you.
All right.
And what you do with all of these ideas and insights that you gain through this course is ultimately
going to be determined by you as well.
Section ten of the course, I'm going to vote to Effy Kuze.
No, this isn't tangentially the first version of the course.
I think this is version three that we're on now.
And what I like to do with this course alongside some of my other main courses as I like to reproduce
em every couple of years.
Why?
Because I myself am continuing to grow in competence and insight and expect and experience as I grow
an insight.
Confidence, competence on experience.
I want to stay the course so that you can come on this journey with me, if that's OK.
All right.
It's just a a lifetime project that I've embarked upon here.
Last but not least, ideas for further study.
I'm going to include a whole load of books that I've read over the years that really impacted and positively
influence my thinking, knowing that if you follow my guidance, you'll most likely have your thinking
and understanding influenced in the same way which has allowed me to really make a positive impact in
many people's lives over the years.
And it's not because I'm changing people.
It's not because I'm fixing people's lives.
I like them.
I like to see myself as a coach, as, moreover, a conduit for change or a facilitator of change.
It's not me.
This change in people's life, it's not me is taken all the action steps for them.
I'm just a guy who operates more in the background, who kind of just asks the right questions, who
has the insights to perform and challenge people to become the change that they want to see happen rather
than the approach many people take towards life.
Sitting back waiting for change to happen, we become can become as facilitators of change that really
help people to move and drive their lives forward.
My friend, I promise you, life coaching is a very exciting it's a fascinating process and it's one
that once you've fully grasped, I know you are going to be itching, you are going to find it very,
very hard to continue self and hold yourself back from getting out there and putting what you've learned
into practice right away is one of the most rewarding decisions that I've made in.
My life, and I'm hoping that upon completion of this course, you're in agreement that this is possibly
one of their best investments of your time that you've ever made.
So without further ado, there's just one idea that I want to present you with.
Before we officially get started, it's our expectations.
The hurt us in life, not reality.
Whatever happens in actuality is real.
What we think should happen in the world is unreal.
So people were hurt by the expectations.
We are not, nor are we ever disappointed by what we find.
We are only ever disappointed when our expectations do not become our reality.
That's a quote by Professor Jarret Eagan, author of The Skilled Helper.
The question you might be asking right now is why am I really sharing this and emphasizing this at this
stage of the course?
Well, to really help you manage your expectations in the same way that you might have had some expectations
of this course, when your clients start coming to you or you start coaching people, they are going
to be placing expectations upon you.
So if we get better at managing people's expectations, we get automatically, better managing the levels
and the degrees of disappointment that people experience in life.
I guarantee you and right now, this is one of the most vital lessons that we can learn, not just as
life coaches, but as helpers, as husbands, wives, as moms, as dads, as friends, managers, bosses,
employees and as human beings.
Full stop.
But I promise you, by the end of the section, this will definitely make a lot more sense to you.
So without further ado, let's get started and get a show on the road.